"Raw & Real": Gay Men’s Therapy Circle

Unfiltered conversations. Bold connections. Healing with humor.

Being a gay man means navigating a world full of contradictions: freedom and stigma, hookups and loneliness, pride and shame. Too often, our deepest questions about sex, intimacy, identity, and connection stay hidden—because even in queer spaces, some things feel “too much” to say out loud. 

This group is where you get to say it all.

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Burning Questions, Bold Answers

• To talk openly about sex, intimacy, and identity without judgment.
• To connect with other men in ways that go deeper than small talk.
• To turn vulnerability into strength and shame into belonging.
• To laugh, to cry, and to leave feeling more alive. 

• A chance to talk about sex, love, and identity in a way that feels bold—not clinical.
• A rare space where humor, erotic energy, and emotional depth coexist.
• Builds community and connection beyond surface-level conversations. 
• 6 weekly engaging conversations with a registered counsellor and fellow peers. 

This isn’t your typical therapy circle. We’ll mix heartfelt conversation with humor, playfulness, and the occasional provocative twist. Some weeks will be raw and emotional, others will feel like a mix of group therapy and late-night queer banter with a purpose.

Whats Off-limits? That's a funny concept. We will tread where fear lives, but we'll keep the pitchforks pointed at something interesting!

Judgment is for the unimaginative. Here, your wildest thoughts are just conversation starters. Embrace the glorious weirdness!

You're already here, aren't you? Just dive in, speak your mind, and we will try not to break anything too important.

Welcome to the next journey of becoming yourself!

What does it cost? 
$65/session for 6 weeks ($390.00 total for the workshop). Direct insurance billing is possible.

Please contact me directly. Just go to the top page, click on "schedule" and choose a 15-20 free consultation. We can meet briefly, answer any questions, and together we can choose which of the 4 groups best fits your schedule. 

The Gloriously Forbidden Fruits

Ever felt like you needed a decoder ring for the whispers in the dark? This group has got you covered. Here, we will demystify the jargon, unpack the concepts, and shine a spotlight on the subjects that make polite society blush.

From the delightfully deviant to the profoundly perplexing, consider this your cheat sheet to the world of the unspoken. Arm yourself with knowledge, and then go forth and conquer the conversational frontier!

The Gatherings

Gathering 1

Meet & Greet — RAW AND REAL

The opening session is about creating connection, building safety, and setting the tone for what it means to show up authentically.

You will meet other group members in a supportive, gay-affirming environment.

Learn group agreements around confidentiality, respect, and curiosity.

Explore vulnerability through light check-ins and deeper sharing exercises.

Name the masks gay men often feel pressured to wear and begin to explore what lies behind them.

Begin to clarify your personal intentions by identifying what you hope to gain from the group.

This session will begin to balance humor, honesty, and depth, helping you to feel welcomed while challenging yourself to show up in ways that are unpolished, real, and unapologetically.

Gathering 2

Love, Desire, and Rejection — RAW AND REAL

In this gathering we dive into the heart of gay men’s emotional lives: the powerful mix of love, longing, and the sting of rejection.

Explore personal stories of desire — from crushes to hookups to long-term love.
Identify our fears and defenses that arise when facing rejection or vulnerability.

Examine cultural and personal messages about desirability, body image, and what it means to be “wanted.”

Practice authentic sharing by naming both what excites us and what hurts us.

Build empathy and connection by listening to others’ experiences of intimacy and rejection.

This session balances erotic honesty with emotional depth, helping you confront the risks and rewards of opening themselves to connection.

Together, we begin unpacking how love and rejection shape our sense of self, intimacy, and belonging.

Gathering 3

Sex & Shame — RAW AND REAL

This gathering tackles one of the most powerful forces shaping gay men’s lives: the intersection of sexuality and shame.

We will examine the roots of sexual shame — family, religion, culture, and the gay community itself.

Share experiences of secrecy, stigma, or judgment tied to sex, desire, or identity.

Explore the tension between erotic freedom and the shame that can silence or distort it.

Identify coping strategies used to manage shame — and how they help or hinder intimacy.

Practice reclaiming sexual narratives in a way that fosters pride, authenticity, and connection.

This session encourages raw honesty around what we often hide, inviting you to move from silence and self-criticism toward erotic self-acceptance and deeper intimacy.

Gathering 4

Hookups vs. Intimacy — RAW AND REAL

In this gathering, we unpack the tension between quick encounters and deeper emotional bonds.

Reflect on personal experiences with hookups, dating, and relationships.

Explore the different needs that hookups and intimacy meet — connection, validation, release, companionship.

Discuss cultural pressures in gay communities around sex, love, and commitment.

Examine personal boundaries and what each man is really seeking.

Practice honesty in naming their desires without judgment.

This session challenges the assumption that sex and intimacy are always separate — and opens space to imagine new ways of connecting.

Gathering 5

Taboo vs. Fetish/Kink — RAW AND REAL

We turn toward the erotic edges — the places where desire intersects with taboo, fantasy, and kink.

Distinguish between taboo and kink — what society labels “wrong” versus what is consciously chosen as erotic play.

Share fantasies or experiences (to the degree they feel comfortable) in a non-judgmental space.

Discuss stigma around fetish, BDSM, and non-normative desires.

Explore the difference between secret-driven shame and intentional erotic freedom.

Reflect on how embracing kink can be a path toward authenticity and empowerment.

This session is provocative yet grounding — inviting men to be curious about the edges of their own desires.

Gathering 6

Pleasure as Healing— RAW AND REAL

This final gathering explores pleasure not just as indulgence, but as medicine for the body, mind, and spirit.

Reframe pleasure as a legitimate and essential part of wellbeing.

Identify barriers (shame, guilt, trauma, body image) that block access to pleasure.

Share experiences of when pleasure has been healing or transformative.

Learn how the body holds both pain and joy, and how pleasure can counteract stress, loneliness, and shame.

Experiment with mindfulness practices that anchor pleasure in the present moment.

This session highlights how reconnecting with pleasure — sexual, sensual, and emotional — can restore wholeness and deepen intimacy. We will close with a few moments of reflection. ***this session may run 30 mins longer****

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